We all want success, it’s what we work towards and strive for, but for some of us, the fear of going after success and actually achieving it might be the very thing that stops us. Whereas others may feel they don’t deserve the success they could very well end up with.
Worse still, what if we attain success, it’s everything we’d dreamed it would be and it gets taken away. Life is full of uncertainties and sometimes we’re too scared to try.
15 points to help you decide!
Desire – whether it’s nature or nurture, every human wants some measure of success. Whilst this desire helps make life interesting, it can also scare the hell out of us!
Fear – you can’t have success without the fear of failure. It’s worth remembering that failure is a natural part of life, but for some people, the idea is so frightening that it prevents them from even trying.
Dreams – think back to your early school days, all those stories we wrote entitled “When I grow up I want to be a…”
When we’re small, our imaginations are at their most active, we start dreaming about the future and of what we can accomplish. The world is ours for the taking!
Pressure – but as we move into adulthood, we’re not alone in our dreams for success. Often, the adult world we now inhabit is pressured, with a constant reminder to think about the future. Each passing year makes us worry about our potential successes or failures, the stakes get higher and we wonder if we can measure up.
Self-doubt – our personal levels of self-doubt and confidence determine how we’ll handle the pressure to succeed. While some flourish, others will stumble under the weight of their self-doubt, making them question their skills and worth.
Trying – some people are so overwhelmed by their own negative thoughts they simply stop dreaming of success.
It becomes an unattainable goal that seems futile to reach for, best left for others to attain.
Retention – whilst some will stumble under the pressure to succeed, others will thrive, despite their fears. But once success is reached this doesn’t mean that the worries are over, fearing achievement is one thing, but the fear of not being able to hang onto success may be even greater.
Losing – some of life’s biggest winners have attained that status because they are so afraid of losing, whilst for others, the fear of losing success after working so hard to achieve it is so scary that it’s simply not worth the trouble. But surely, “it’s better to have loved and lost…”
Overthink – of course the path to success seldom easy, but then again, we tend to make it harder than it needs to be, and we psych ourselves out! We overthink and magnify everything, fear feeding fear, creating a snowball effect. It can be hard not to get caught up in an emotional avalanche!
Risk – is it worth the reward? We weigh up the odds and write the pros/cons list. Is potential success worth potential heartache?
Uncertainty – there’s only one certainty of course, if you don’t try, then you’ll never have any type of success. But if you do try, it’s a very real possibility! Whilst we can’t predict the future, we can do our best to shape it.
Obstacles – no road is ever smooth, there will be potholes aplenty! Sometimes you’ll be lucky and find a smooth stretch of highway that will allow you to appreciate everything you’ve worked so hard to achieve. But if you choose to strive for greatness, sometimes life with throw stuff at you that ‘ain’t so great’!
Low points – there will be times when you question if it’s all worth it. You might rethink your life choices, but a voice deep inside will keep pushing you, urging you on…listen for the voice.
You’ll never know if you don’t try – you don’t want to reach the winter of your years and realise that the biggest mistake that you made was never to take chances, none of us know what life has in store, so “Carpe Diem” and try!
Like beauty, success is in the eye of the beholder – how you interpret success is all up to you! For some, success will be reaching your goal, getting the very thing you want. For others, success, whether ultimately achieved or not is knowing you did everything in your power to try.
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